The Roman Baths in Bath, England. |
A few minutes later the young woman sitting next to me left
to catch her bus, leaving that seat empty. That was when I saw her. I guessed
her age to be late 60’s or early 70’s and she walked with an awkward shuffle,
shifting her ample weight from one foot to the other with each step. She was
wearing burgundy sweat pants tucked into rain boots, a black sweatshirt, and a
wool jacket in a red, yellow, and black Aztec print. A blue cameo pin rested on her
lapel and her gray hair was peeking out from a green stocking cap. She looked my
way. I immediately thought to myself, “Don’t sit by me! Don’t sit by me! Don’t
sit by me!” I said it over and over in my head, but the gray-haired woman
ambled over to the bench and quite literally plopped down next to me. I was
relieved when she started a conversation with the young woman sitting on the
other end of the bench. I felt myself relax a bit.
I watched as people passed by and called out greetings to the
eclectically dressed woman next to me. It was obvious that she was a local and
was well known. Business men in suits waved and said hello. Women corralling
their children through the crowds called her by name. Her name was Mary. I was
quite curious now and much more at ease. She was definitely considered part of
the normal happenings at the Bath bus station.
Then the captive audience on the other end of the bench made
her escape and boarded a bus. I was left alone with this very unusual woman. As
if on cue, another woman walked over and struck up a conversation with Mary.
She was quite thin and tall. Her attire was also quite eccentric. She wore a
dark green canvas coat that hung heavy off her shoulders. It was several sizes
too large. The hem of a purple dress hung out from under the bottom of the
coat. It was a stark contradiction. It was an evening dress with sequins and
sheer layers of fabric. It hung several inches below the woman’s knees, but
wasn’t long enough to cover the patchy splotches of red skin on her legs. She
wore heavy lace-up shoes and her appearance was haggard.
I felt a bit guilty as I eavesdropped on their conversation.
The thin woman was named Jean and she had lost a family member named Peter. She
told Mary that she had taken Peter’s ashes to the sea to spread them back into
the natural world. She took them on his birthday, and as she started to scatter
the ashes, a group of turtles gathered around the boat. Mary questioned,
“Turtles?” The woman replied, “Yes, turtles!” Jean continued her story by
saying that the driver of the boat had never seen turtles in that location and
that they were rare. Mary questioned again, “Turtles?” and the woman again
replied, “Yes, turtles!” She continued, explaining that Peter loved turtles.
Mary was getting more excited as the story progressed and she would repeat the
woman’s words back to her over and over again. Restating that the turtles were
rare and not common in that area, then questioning again that Peter loved
turtles.
Then Mary spoke boldly to Jean, stating, “We are all
connected in life and nature. The turtles were there to greet him.” Her voice
became even more excited as her conversation with Jean transitioned into
talking about her loved one who had died. They discussed his struggles in life
and how Jean should work her way through her grief. At the height of the
conversation, Mary said, “We can fly on the wings of doves, on chariots of
fire. Our reach is longer than our grasp. We are very important, dear. All of
us. We must blow our own trumpet, dear. And we must not judge the book by its
cover.”
Her last sentence hit me hard. “We must not judge the book
by its cover.” That was exactly what I had done when Mary shuffled over and sat
next to me on the bench. Immediately, I made a conscious decision to set my
judgments about Mary aside and be open to having a conversation. Right after I
had that thought, Jean said her goodbyes and walked away, leaving the bus
station.
That was when Mary turned toward me and greeted me with a
hearty, “Hello!” It was then that I noticed her harsh eye makeup and rouge. It
looked to be a day or two old. It was faded, but still indicated the heavy hand
that had applied it to her skin. Blue eyeshadow, darkly drawn brows, and
brightly colored cheeks……it looked almost clown-like. Then I saw a cluster of
dark green, shiny leaves pinned to the front of her sweatshirt. Mary was
definitely an interesting woman.
Mad Mary told me about her son, who lived with her. He had
fallen on difficult times and was currently struggling to find work. She said
that she loved him and that he was a good person. He helped her around the
house with chores and handy man things that she couldn’t do.
She then pulled a wad of British notes out of her pocket and
held them up in front of her. She said that God was with her that day…..that He
would provide for her. Mad Mary told me she was taking 20 pounds to the store
and she had faith that she would bring back 40 pounds of groceries because God
would take care of her. She trusted him and he provided for her every week.
Every time she went to the market, He turned 20 pounds into 40 pounds of
groceries.
There was a lull in our conversation when she leaned around
again to look at me. With a serious tone she asked an interesting question,
“There is someone in your family that is a preacher or tied to the church,
isn’t there?” I felt a tingle run up my spine. Why did she think that? How did
she know? I responded, “Yes, my grandfather was a preacher.” Mad Mary grew
excited again. “I knew it! You have an energy about you. I knew you were a
spiritual person. I knew you were from a family of spiritual people.” Again, I
felt a little off kilter from her intuitive statement, but I told her about my
maternal grandparents, Bob and Verna Sharp. I explained how they helped
establish the foundation of my spiritual beliefs and how they set such a
powerful example of living from a place of love.
At the next lull in the conversation, I asked Mad Mary about
the leaves pinned to the front of her sweatshirt. She explained that she wore
them to have nature with her at all times. The glossy green leaves were her
reminder to look for Him in nature….to spend time in nature….and to stay
connected to God through nature. “You don’t have to find Him in a church, you
can find Him in nature.” I told her I agreed….that I was a nature lover also
and that I felt the closest to God when I was outside in the natural elements.
Then she asked me another surprising question. Mad Mary
asked, “You are an artist, aren’t you?” Again, I felt a shiver as I thought to
myself, “How did she know that?” I replied, “Yes, I am an artist.” She
exclaimed, “I knew you were an artist. You have the energy of an artist.” Mad
Mary continued her questioning. “Do you paint or draw?” “No,” I replied. “I am
a gourd artist and photographer.” She was unfamiliar with gourd art, so I
showed her my Gratitude Gourds Facebook page. She oohed and awed over the
photos and I explained how I dry the gourds and drawn the designed on by hand
before burning the pattern into the shell of the gourd. Then Mad Mary asked if
I would like to see her sketches. I quickly replied that I would love to see
them. She dug through one of her bags and pulled out a sketch book. She flipped
it open to a page covered with a beautiful pencil sketch of fish and seashells.
Now it was my turn to ooh and awe! The next page featured flowers. Mad Mary
proudly showed me page after page of lovely sketches of nature. She seemed
appreciative of having an audience with which to share her talent. We discussed
the challenges and rewards of creating art.
As the departure time for my bus crept closer, I started to
gather up my belongings. I looked over at Mary and asked her if I could take a
picture with her. She threw her thick hands up in the air and exclaimed, “You
want to take a picture of me?” I told her that I take pictures of people I meet
on my trips and that I would love to have a picture with her. She smoothed her
stocking hat and straightened her jacket as I leaned closer and held my cell
phone out in front of us. I took a couple of photos and then she pointed her
index finger up into the air and said, “It’s all about Him….it’s all about
God.” I took a few more photos then told her I had enjoyed meeting her and I
hoped that everything weighing on her in her life would work out well.
I gathered my backpack and made my way across the station to
my departure gate. As I looked back over my shoulder, Mad Mary had left her
spot on the bench and was making her way to the exit door of the bus station.
I doubt that Mad Mary thinks about me or our conversation,
but I recall it rather often. My encounter with her is one of the most
beautiful interactions I have had with another human being. Neither of us had
anything to prove. We were just two people sharing a bench and an appreciation
for God, nature, art, and the intricacies of life. And, she also made me
realize that it is okay if people think you are mad….perhaps it is even more
than okay! Perhaps it is brilliant!